Are You Guilty of Adultery?

I am sure that most of the guys who read this blog, Christian, Muslim, Jewish, Hindu, or whatever have never been involved in committing adultery. Or have you?

Let's look at the definition of adultery which is found at Dictionary.com: voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than his or her lawful spouse.

Ok, so you and I may not have committed the physical act of adultery but are we still guilty of the thought process involved? Most religions would tell us that it is wrong to have sexual relations with someone who is not our wife and definitely not with the wife of another man. Christianity is no different but Jesus took it a step farther. We find His statement on adultery in Matthew 5.

Matthew 5: 27-28 "You know the next commandment pretty well, too: 'Don't go to bed with another's spouse.' But don't think you've preserved your virtue simply by staying out of bed. Your heart can be corrupted by lust even quicker than your body. Those leering looks you think nobody notices—they also corrupt."

If we look at the Old Testament figure of David who is described as a man after God's heart. we will find the steps involved in committing adultery. 2 Samuel 11: 2-4 One late afternoon, David got up from taking his nap and was strolling on the roof of the palace. From his vantage point on the roof he saw a woman bathing.

1st: David was being idle and not doing his job. He was King and he should have been off with his men defending the kingdom.

The woman was stunningly beautiful.

2nd: David looked upon her beauty. The indication here is he not only looked at her but did a double take.

David sent to ask about her, and was told, "Isn't this Bathsheba, daughter of Eliam and wife of Uriah the Hittite?"

3rd: David sent someone to gather some more information about her.

David sent his agents to get her.

4th: David sent one of his servants to bring her to the palace.

After she arrived, he went to bed with her. 

5th: David allowed his admiration of her beauty to become sexual contact.

Guys lets be honest we notice a beautiful woman. That is not the problem here. The problem is the second and the third look. The problem is after the second or third look we begin to imagine what she looks like undressed which then leads us to imagining having sexual contact with her.

That is what Jesus is talking about in Matthew 5. Once we reach that point we are as guilty as if we actually did have sex with her.

Jesus makes it clear that the sin does not begin as we undress a woman nor as we have sex with her. The sin begins within our hearts and minds.

I have to confess I have been guilty believing the lie that the sin is in the physical. Men sin begins way before anything physically is stirred in you. I do not care what religious or non-religious back ground you have you are still capable of falling into this trap.  I encourage you to ask God to send another man into your life who can come along side of you and fight this battle with lust. 

Note: This post was stirred in me by a sermon given at Vineyard Church by Lead Pastor Mark Warner.